Don’t let the jealous words, threats, and bullying of a childish individual drag you down. Don’t give him that power. I was not kidding about the Antisocial Personality Disorder. It is a serious problem. They use ANY means necessary (words, threats, deviance, destruction, power plays, BRAINWASHING) to try and fill the void that their own self-functions, identities, and interpersonal functioning’s cannot achieve. In laments terms this means his insecurities and fears are what drives him to do these unspeakable acts we have come to expect.
You must realize by now that you have everything he could ever want. He made a life mission to drag you down in the mud, and you have proven time and again that you are above it all.
You have riches that he could never achieve. You have parents who chose you. THEY CHOSE YOU! Don’t you ever forget that! This current situation obviously sucks, but you got to see them. They welcomed you in. They welcomed us all in. Cherish what you can. Life is too short to dwell on his words. You cannot change the past. That is why it is already behind us.
You should only look to the past to see where it has gotten you now. The greatness you have achieved! You have a HUGE family. Look around you! You have a wife who loves you. She stands tall and proud with you even at your craziest moments. She sees what the rest of us see. You have three daughters who love you and think about you every day. So what if the past was filled with “dark moments”. You STILL stepped up to the plate and did what was best! I regret nothing of our past. I live in the here and now, and it’s a great place to be!
I may have had some rough patches in my childhood, but they made me the person I am now. I do not ever want an apology for that. You did what you could and that is enough! Now, I have added to our family, with a new crazy son-in-law for you to pick on! I have added two BEAUTIFUL children, and they think the world of you! They love their Grandpa Scott and Grandma Shell (muahahaha!). Again, I may have started my life path a little late, but I have made the most of it, just like you! We try our best and let no one get in our way! I only look to the future. No one will tear me down!
Racheal forever in the middle (I love you!). She has your temper and takes S#&* from no one! She fights tooth and nail for everything and she should be proud of the woman she is becoming! You helped her get there! She loves us all unconditionally, and would fight to the death for any of us! I cannot wait to see where life takes her next! She is another great jewel to add to your riches.
Krissy, the youngest, but the smartest! Her achievement list goes for miles, just like yours! She shows the drive and determination that I have seen in your eyes! She is going to go places and will achieve greatness like no one before her. You helped to shape her into that great person and now you get to see how far she goes! Don’t let anyone rain on that.
You also raised a son. A person who I remember going places with us, playing, laughing, and full of light. Look at him now! His light shines still. He is smart, a free spirit, and not ashamed of who he is. I don’t have the same connection with him as Racheal, but I still call him family, and I love him just the same! You stepped up, when you didn’t have to. You could have “washed your hands” too, but you didn’t. That is something only a real man would have courage to do. Thank you for keeping him in our lives.
You have friends, family, and so much more. You had the Zoo crew, which was like a band of “dads” for me growing up. I wouldn’t trade those memories for anything!!! I love talking about all the memories growing up in and around your garages! You have been a mechanic, a race car driver, a mover, a dishwasher, a ski instructor, a coach, a team player, a driver, a father, a grandfather, a husband, a hamburgler, and so much more! You have a million wonderful memories, and a million more to make. Do not let ANYONE cast a shadow over the things you have done! Be proud of where you are! Be proud of who you are! Be proud of everything you have achieved! I know we are all proud to be able to call you ours! I love you! WE ALL LOVE YOU!
-Jessica Lynn Govertsen (Fox)♥